The third unique book in the Wren Publications series "Healing Loss in Famillies" concerns the loss of a parent. "The Lonely Halo" is a children's story that uses easy-to-understand fictional characters to highlight the many issues faced.
The story shows what happened to Laura and Ned when their mother Liz died suddenly. Laura was nine and a half, and her little brother Ned was just four year old. It describes how they and their father Andy coped when she died.
The symbolic 'halo' is made of love and light and memories - but the family members have to cope with their loss of mother in their own ways. As part of this process they all come to offer a 'goodbye' ritual for her: a "special goodbye" that helps each one of them individually, and as a family, to begin to integrate the terrible loss into their hearts.
Once upon a time there was a little house, where the Smith family lived. There were four people in the family: Andy, and Liz, and their two children Laura and Ned. They did all the things that families do. Daddy and Mummy went to work, the children played with their friends. They liked to visit Granny and Grandpa, and they loved going camping.
Then one day, when Laura was nine and a half, and Ned was just four, Daddy said: “Mummy has gone to the hospital because she is very, very ill.”
Mummy was ill for a long time, and Ned and Laura missed her very much. Sometimes Daddy looked so sad that Laura gave him a special hug to make it better. Sometimes the house was so quiet that Ned played motorbikes all over the place and made lots of noise.
Ned asked:"Can we go and see Mummy in the hospital?" Daddy looked very sorry when he said:“ No, I’m afraid you can’t, because Mummy is so ill”.
Every day Laura and Ned looked at Mummy’s photograph and longed for her to come back to them. The next day was the beginning of the sad time. Granny and Grandpa came to stay and Daddy stayed at the hospital all day and all night.
Then Daddy came home and said Mummy had died and would not be coming home any more. Then everyone cried a lot and people were very silent and sad.
Laura said she had a tummy pain and didn’t want her dinner because Mummy wasn’t there. Ned said he felt sick and wouldn’t eat because Mummy wasn’t there. Daddy gave them a hug but still Mummy wasn’t there. Grandpa took them to the park but they didn’t want to play because Mummy wasn’t there.
And every night they went into the bedroom and looked at the picture of Mummy in her white veil, and Daddy looking so happy, and they knew that Mummy wasn’t there any more. As they looked at it, the photograph seemed to glow with a special brightness.
THE LONELY HALO
An annotated story for bereaved fathers and children - and the professionals who help them
Printable PDF Document of 30 pages